Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory by Cunning Minx

'During NRE, consider yourself to have the judgment of a teenager whose frontal lobe is not yet completely formed. Do not quit your job or change jobs.'Ĭunning Minx says.

Do not pack up the moving truck with all your belongings and move across town, across the state or across the country to be with your new love. 'A good rule of thumb is not to pack anything larger than a suitcase during NRE. If More Than Two is the exam length classic, 8 things is the study guide. But the primer is all the more useful due to its length. It's a dictionary versus Cunning Minx's primer. It joins the illustrious ranks of up and coming open relationship books like More Than Two and kicks off with a quote from author Franklin Veaux (do they all know each other over there in the US of A)? Cunning Minx has been podcasting since 2005, which is before I had a twinkle in my eye for any plural relationships. ) 8 Things I wish I'd known about polyamory (before I frakked it up). Giving you the prior knowledge of the stupid stuff you do when you fall in love is the focus of Cunning Minx's eBook (available via Later I learned that polyamorous people call it New Relationship Energy. It makes you take decisions you wouldn't otherwise take. We were both suffering from a heady mix of oxytocin, vasopressin, dopamine and noepinephrine. 'What on earth are you thinking? It's not at all the same. There was a frosty silence at the end of the phone. We needed each other if were to make the venture work. Traveling from Italy to England every month was taking a huge toll on our respective budgets, familial backlash was relentlessly severe and there was no organizational support in a country where cheating was the norm, but open relationships were cursed. The choice was either to move and take a chance on love, or to risk losing the relationship altogether. We'd fallen madly in love with another couple and just couldn't see any other way to continue the relationship in its current dynamic. To England to be closer to our poly partners.'Īt the time my husband and I had just come out of the polyamorous closet. But how exciting.' Then I took a deep breath and said When she announced it to me on the phone I said, She was deliriously happy if a little nervous. My best friend fell in love, got pregnant and moved to Spain within the space of a year.

Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory by Cunning Minx